My “mommy porn” Addiction

There is a topic that has come up in multiple conversations for me lately, and it really has me thinking, about our society and how it looks at certain forms of entertainment. One in particular. Romance books…or “mommy porn”. 

Mommy Porn is a term that became quite popular with the success of 50 Shades of Grey. So, let’s start there. Personally, I was not a big fan of the trilogy. I am one of those that thought it poorly written and even more poorly edited. But say what you will about the content itself, you can’t deny that’s it’s propelled the industry.  I can’t count how many women I’ve heard only started reading when their friend, sister, mother, grandmother or whoever, was reading the series and they decided to pick it up themselves. Which led to them picking up more books and more books and more books. Reading, no matter what it is, isn’t a bad thing. 

I’m not going to judge a dude for only reading Guns and Ammo or Popular Mechanic. I might not find those interesting, but I’m going to applaud the fact that he’s actually reading something. I’m also not going to judge you if all you read is books about real life happenings in third world countries. I find those depressing. So please don’t judge me if I pick up a book that takes me outside of my real world problems and plants me in a fantasy land where my struggles don’t exist. That’s why I read. 

I’m kind of making it sound like only men judge women for reading romance, sadly, women are probably worse. Even women who don’t read books, at all,  look down on women who read Romance. I just don’t understand it. What makes you superior?

As much as Fifty Shades did for the industry, it also kind of fucked it over. It seems like more and more people view everything within the genre as ‘erotic’. For one, that’s just not true. In fact, there isn’t even all that much sex in the Fifty Shades books. Secondly, when did romance and falling in love become something to look down on? Don’t most people strive for that in life? Isn’t the wedding industry proof that people, by basic nature, want to fall in love, get married and make babies?

So, that leads me to this question.  Is it just about the sex? 

I have one person in my life who’s made several “mommy porn” comments to me in regards to the books I read. Yet, I KNOW he watches porn regularly. He’s also watched many movies and television shows with explicit sex. What’s the difference? Why is a book about a couple falling in love and having sex, worse than porn?

Maybe it’s not the sex and it’s the actual romance. But if that was the case people would look down on me if I picked up a Jane Austen novel. Honestly, I bet Jane Austen would even have sex in her books if she wrote them today and I bet Mr. Darcy would be hung like a fucking horse. SEX IS PART OF LIFE!

But if it’s not about the sex and it’s not about the romance, what is it about? Is it about the money? Does society feel the need to look down on the romance genre because it sells so well and how dare you make a living while writing about a love story that may include penises and vaginas?

I’ll say one thing that E.L. James got right for me, she produced an interesting character that I wanted to know more about and that is probably what helped those books sell so well.  It wasn’t all the ‘bondage for beginners’ content. There is some substance there as there is with so many other Romance books. They aren’t all just page after page of sex. If that was the case, they wouldn’t sell because we’d  all just hop on Pornhub and get our fix for free.

I see more and more friends on social media creating second accounts so the people in their real life don’t see what they read. I only have one account but I’ve blocked most family members for that same reason.  It’s pretty sad that we’re judged for doing something as basic as reading a book. 

Want to know something else that those of us who read romance with sex know? It can greatly improve your boring sex life. So, go suck on that fact while you lay in bed alone or have unsatisfying sex because you’re above reading a book that might make you (gasp) horny.

All I know is that while I laugh off the comments they still make me wonder why society is such a snob.

 

 

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  • Yeah… you should have seen some of my classmates at Uni when I said that I was going to a book convention last year – RT – and they were like oh, you read … uhm… *romance* in your spare time? Yup, I do – love it!! It’s so nice to get a break from Shakespeare and Dickens, you know 😀
    Great post, Miss Ali!!

    • I still read plenty outside of romance, but I still get viewed (judged)
      as JUST a romance reader. Which in itself shouldn’t be a bad thing, but
      why do people overlook all the other books I read? Why can’t we read
      whatever we want and just be left alone, dang it!

      • I agree, we should be able to read whatever we want, when we want it! I never judged my friends who read 50 Shades, even if I tried and failed to finish it myself. I did watch the movie with some of my hardcore fangirl friends, and that was just awkward to me… but we had a great night together anyway!

  • Dee Trejo

    Great post. A friend and I were just talking about this yesterday after I told her that someone had judged me on my reading material and after I posted something about a book I had just finished on my facebook. I knew they were joking around but the point was still there that they mentioned I read smut and they don’t. My comment after that was well my apologies to your girlfriend maybe you could learn a thing or two. But even my boyfriend comments about my “mommy porn” and how its just porn. I don’t judge that he reads nothing but political stuff but to me reading has always been to take me to another place where I could be someone else, live a hundred different lives. I’ve always been a reader for as long as I can remember and who cares what you read just read, learn something new, discover a new world. I can say that I’m happy I have passed my reading gene down to my daughter to the point where she ended up taking over my kindle shes only 8 but already reading 3 grades above her level shes not even interested in books with pictures anymore. So people could take their judgmental asses and suck it i’ll read what I want when I want it.

    • You tell them Dee! It’s my firm belief that all women’s sex lives would be greatly benefited if every man would read a couple “smutty” books. 😉


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